You Don’t Need to Fix Your Emotions, You Need to Understand Them

In a culture that often values productivity and positivity, uncomfortable emotions can feel like problems to solve. But emotions aren’t broken parts of us, they’re signals. Sadness, anger, fear, even anxiety - they all carry information about our inner world and unmet needs (Greenberg, 2015). When we try to suppress or “fix” our emotions too quickly, we miss the opportunity to understand ourselves more deeply.

Instead of asking, “How do I get rid of this feeling?”, try asking, “What is this emotion trying to show me?” This shift from judgment to curiosity allows space for emotional healing and self-compassion (Neff, 2011).

You’re not weak for feeling deeply. You’re human. And understanding your emotions is a powerful step toward emotional resilience.

At Vaughan Counselling, we’re here to support you on that journey. You can book a session with us and take the first step toward understanding yourself more fully. Lolita and Julia are two of our therapists that are able to support you.

References:

Greenberg, L. S. (2015). Emotion-focused therapy: Coaching clients to work through their feelings. American Psychological Association.

Neff, K. D. (2011). Self-compassion: The proven power of being kind to yourself. William Morrow.